Showing posts with label middle age issues. Show all posts
Showing posts with label middle age issues. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Empty Nesters



Last weekend my husband and I took our daughter to move into her apartment, to begin her junior year in college. Where has the time gone? She can't possibly be a junior. She's my little girl. 


Now this weekend, we moved our son (the baby) into his dorm room at college. He is about to start his Freshman year. We shopped for everything he could possibly need, and hauled it all up to the sixth floor.











When we got up there, we were surprised to find out that Nick had his own bedroom in a suite of four other guys. We weren't expecting that. He was pretty excited!






Nick deserves such luck. He is a great kid. He works hard, and he always seems to do the right thing. Still, I was nervous leaving him there. He will always be  my baby.



It makes me feel better that he is only thirty minutes from home, and that the campus is so nice.
I don't remember dormitories being this nice when I was in college??


Now that we're back home, we are trying to settle into a new routine. It is eerily quiet around the house. I miss the chatter of kids, cooking for them, and just having them around. I am on the hunt for a new job. A new life. It's a little scary, because I really liked my old job. I really liked my old life. It's strange for my husband too, but he was always at work five days a week. It's not as much of a dramatic change for him, as it is for me.


Still, it will be nice to focus on being a couple again. Not that we ever stopped, but the dynamics are different when you add kids to the mix. He is definitely still the person I want to be with the most. I feel lucky and Blessed for that.

So here we are... empty nesters. I can hardly believe it. It is certainly bittersweet. I'll try to focus on the sweet!


Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Family First

Last night my husband and I had dinner with a good friend of ours that we met while living in Tampa, Florida.  I adore his wife, and we have kids around the same age who have always gotten along really well.  It was wonderful catching up with him, and getting to hear what is new in their world.  During our one of our conversations, he told us that his father will be moving in with them in the Spring instead of heading into assisted living housing.  He said that his father would really prefer to be with family, and I really respect my friends for being so unselfish and supporting him.  This made me start thinking about my parents, and my husband's parents, and about some of the tough decisions that we will probably have to make one day.

Dinner at Fats... yum!

Deciding on how to care for an aging parent must be really difficult.  Each family is different, and has different needs, so there can't be one answer for everyone.  My grandmother really thrived in an assisted living program, as she was so social and enjoyed that aspect of it.  On the other hand, my grandfather seemed to go downhill quickly after being placed in one.

Thankfully my parents are still young and very healthy.  Although I have been threatening them both with the "Sunshine Home" since I was a teenager, when this time comes for them, their happiness will be the most important thing to me.  I will gladly welcome them into my home, or help them in anyway they need.  There has never been a day in my life when I couldn't count on my parents to be there for me if I needed them.  I hope they know they can always count on me for love and support too.


                               
                                     My Dad
My Mom