Still Doing It!

It's Friday night, and date night. I'm proud that we are in our forties and still go on date nights. We have been really good about this, even when our kids were younger. Back then it meant setting up a babysitter, getting dinner ready for the kids and the sitter, making sure all pajamas were clean and laid out and finally showering myself and trying to look a little less "mom-like". It sometimes seemed like more trouble that it was worth, but now I can see that it was so important and worthwhile. Our children are on loan to us for 18 years or so. That is really just a small part of what I hope will be a good 50 to 60 year marriage. While the kids are young, it can be very easy to focus only on the parenting and nurturing of the children, and neglect to nurture the relationship with each other.

Coming up with date night ideas isn't easy after 20 years. Thank goodness we are both major foodies and we both love a nice cocktail. A good meal, and a few drinks is usually a perfect date night for both of us. Today, however, my husband let me know before he went to work that he is "ready for some fun".  I'm not exactly sure what this means. Should I be planning a scavenger hunt? Is he ready to go clubbing? Does this mean it's time for me to put out? I thought date night would be less work now that the kids are older.  Then again, it's never a good idea to stop working on your relationship.  I don't know what we'll end up doing, but at least we're still doing it.

UPDATE*****  So it was so cold and rainy on Friday night, it was hard to come up with a good plan for "fun".  I decided to take hubby to a tiny little restaurant/bar in El Dorado Hills called "Sauce'd".  The atmosphere was great, they had a fire in the fireplace, we sat and chatted on black leather couches and had a delicious pizza.  They also have a fabulously fun cocktail menu, and they were soooo good. Great little spot! http://saucedcocktailhouse.com/